Our code of ethics in life is very important. We do everything we can to adhere to it even when the odds are against us. We don’t mind putting our nose to the grindstone when we believe that we are working towards something important and meaningful. The power of motivation can endure all kinds of setbacks, inconveniences, and bumps along the way. It is when we start taking in opinions and criticisms that the doubts creep in and we start losing momentum.
Most of the time the beliefs and values of others, fit in with our attitudes and that of the people in our lives. Most of the time we would like people to give us their honest opinion because we think they know what they are doing. Most of the time we would like people to give us positive criticism because they really care about us. Then again, there are also times when they don’t. There are also times when our reputation is being smeared or when we are being humiliated with unkind and untrue accusations. There are also times when these are due to issues of greed, envy, and jealousy involved in the equation. What happens then, when the time comes for us to deal with such people? Do we give up the time and resources that we have spent and everything that we have worked so hard for?
Please know that at times, there is also the need to bear in mind, that what is right for others, is not necessarily right for us. At times, there is also the need to bear in mind, that not everyone wants to see us succeed. At times, there is also the need to give ourselves the power to trust and believe in ourselves. However, at all times, we should always be prepared to take a broad view of our situation, even if it means dealing with issues that we’d rather not deal with. At all times, there is always the need, to be very honest with ourselves even when we are forced to see clearly and admit our own faults. The key is always to be able to come from a place of balance in thoughts, emotions, and actions.
There comes a time when we have to start being our own best friend and seek ways to chip away at the obstacles before us and turn our deaf ears on the people who can and are all out to keep us down and out. There comes a time when we need to know who is worthy of and deserves our time. Not because we want to be mean to people but because we need to be kind to ourselves. There is a big difference between being kind towards others and continuously allowing them to be insensitive, unkind, selfish, and inconsiderate towards us as a person, our feelings, and our aspirations. BE AWARE OF OUR FRIENDS, OUR DREAMS, AND OUR REALITY.
It is our choice to start loving ourselves or continuously allowing others to disregard us. No matter what kind of relationship we are in, reciprocity is required for our mental and emotional well-being. If there is no positivity, reciprocity, and sincerity in the equation, then the connection may not be serving us for our highest good. If it does not serve our highest good, then we are unconsciously and progressively giving away our power and unknowingly choosing to stand at our lowest.
We need to confront our fears before we can be brave. We need to overcome grief before we can be happy. We need to go through the darkness before we can find the light. We need to make mistakes before we can do right. We have to sit with our failures before we can stand in victory.
For those who are victims of ruthless friends and naysayers, stop being and choosing to be a victim. Keep chasing your dreams. Do it! Do it for yourself first and foremost! Do it for the people who never knew you existed. Do it for the people who failed to value you. Do it for the people who never believed in you. Most importantly, do it for the people who want to see you fail.